Name & Age, Profession
Cheryl Pillar, 45, Psychic Medium
For my day job, I sell consulting services to federal government and I have my CPA. For my weekend job, I’m a psychic medium. I talk to dead people, spirit guides, and angels to bring you closure and guidance on your life path.
Based in Northern, VA
What were you doing at the age of 25?
At the age of 25, I think this is where I was “becoming an adult” I would say. I just got married, started a family, passed the CPA, got my first job in accounting - very different from where I am today being a psychic medium!
For my job I did a bit of traveling, but there wasn’t a lot of equipment in the gyms at the time. I realized that I could run anywhere, so I set a goal to do a half marathon. Over the course of several years I finished a number of races.
Do you have any regrets?
Regrets, no. Coulda woulda shoulda doesn’t get you anywhere. I have lessons I’ve learned and have the resilience to improve my future.
What are you most proud of?
As a psychic medium, most of my clients are grieving their loved ones or lost on their life path. I’m proud that I have the ability to help others. Many clients tell me I changed their life or saved their life. I’ve given them hope to carry on. Helped them understand what life is like after death. Gave them comfort their loved ones in spirit are okay. I know that I’m helping people and that’s why I’m doing this.
Define success / when you felt successful
I’ve always considered myself successful, and really I look at it achieving small feats, making impact daily. Let’s take running a half marathon. For example, even putting my shoes on sometimes was even a success!
One of the things I think has made me successful is resilience. Know that it’s okay to fail, because failures are also successes. Now, you know what doesn’t work. Okay that sucks, and I really blew that or whatever negative thing you want to say about yourself. Reflect on what you learned and how you will change. Be resilient, bounce back even stronger and better for the next time. I think being resilient is one of the most important attributes in any business. You will fail, turn them around, and apply them to your future.
Any advice would you give to your 25 year old self or 25 year olds today?
Find a physical activity you enjoy. I mentioned I did several running races. But I hated running. Every. Single. Step. It was boring. And my feet hurt. So eventually, I gave it up. Find one or more activities that keeps you moving - something that you hate to miss if you have to miss it. I recently started dancing (ballroom, swing, Latin) and absolutely love it.
Connect with yourself. Meditate. Reflect on what is truly important to you. Take time to relax. Journal.
Connect with others. Find your “group” and keep them close. Spend time together. Do things with and for each other.
Value experiences. Take time to go places and travel the world (before kids!).
Present yourself. How do you want to be viewed? Practice speaking - both impromptu and presentation style. Your ability to articulate your perspective in a way others can understand, be motivated, care, and take action will enable your success in business and life.
Favorite Quote or Mantra
“Happiness is a choice and not a result of your circumstances.” You can let the little things derail and steal your joy, or you can say that happened and I accept that and have learned from it.
Song to describe your life at 25
So I actually used to watch a show named Ally McBeal, and each character had their own personal theme song. When Ally would get upset, her theme song would come on and she’d start dancing and it’d cheer her up. Mine is the theme song from “The Greatest American Hero.” What’s would be yours?